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Self-Forgiveness at Work: Finding Pathways to Renewal When Coping with Failure or Perceived Transgressions

  • Lydia WoodyattEmail author
  • Marilyn A. Cornish
  • Mikaela Cibich
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Abstract

At work we can fail, and we can fail to act. Sometimes we harm others by our actions or inactions. How we come to terms with our wrongdoings and failures at work can have an impact on our psychological, relational, and organizational well-being. Ineffectively coping with these experiences can lead to reduced productivity, relational strain, increased perceptions of stress and, ultimately, burnout. Working through these experiences of failure and wrongdoing can be difficult. In this chapter we integrate the current research on self-forgiveness and well-being at work. We explore how the need for self-forgiveness can arise in the workplace. Finally, we outline a process whereby people can work through both transgressions and perceived failures, and we describe contextual factors that may encourage or inhibit self-forgiveness at work.

Keywords

Self-forgiveness Workplace Organizational well-being Coping Burnout 

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Authors and Affiliations

  • Lydia Woodyatt
    • 1
    Email author
  • Marilyn A. Cornish
    • 2
  • Mikaela Cibich
    • 3
  1. 1.School of PsychologyFlinders University of South AustraliaAdelaideAustralia
  2. 2.Auburn UniversityAuburnAustralia
  3. 3.Flinders University of South AustraliaAdelaideAustralia

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