Connected Emotions on Tinder: The Development of Social Skills and a Digital Self Among Users from Mexico City and Madrid

  • Rodrigo Alonso Cardoso-González


Tinder is more than just a dating mobile application; it is a connection and presentation app. Sometimes it is not all about looking for a serious partner to start a relationship or just for casual sex, as it is usually expected, but much more: an opportunity to connect with someone else and the chance to create meaningful relationships. Because of its social representation, Tinder justifies and simplifies interactions with strangers and can help not only with finding a special person, but developing social skills and gaining confidence and self-esteem because of feeling recognized, and even more, because it allows to create bonds connecting emotions and sharing experiences together. This is the result of a research done during two years with 18–31 years old users from Mexico City and Madrid.


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  • Rodrigo Alonso Cardoso-González
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  1. 1.National Autonomous University of MexicoMexico CityMexico

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