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The Social Self

  • Michelle Shir-Wise
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Part of the Leisure Studies in a Global Era book series (LSGE)

Abstract

This chapter looks at free time associated with family, friends and community. The first part focuses on family time, including everyday time, weekends and special occasions and uncovers participants’ conceptions of relationships, parenting and values. As opposed to committed time, free time with the family is presented as enjoyable and highly valued yet linked to cultural expectations of the ideal mother, father or partner. The chapter also addresses gender roles and the notion of quality time. The second part relates to social interaction, friendships and social outings. It looks at sites for socializing as well as the meanings attached to social relationships and practices. Participants present social interaction as valuable, describing it as pleasure, as a form of release, and as fostering a sense of belonging.

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  • Michelle Shir-Wise
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  1. 1.Independent ResearcherRamat GanIsrael

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