Being Subjected to Domestic Violence: Empathic Love and Domination

  • Nik TaylorEmail author
  • Heather Fraser
Part of the Palgrave Studies in Animals and Social Problems book series (PSASP)


Taking centre stage in this chapter are stories about women and companion animals being dominated and abused by ‘loved ones’ and seeking refuge in each other through their own interspecies relationships of empathic love. Close-up examples of abuse are provided from the Loving You, Loving Me study involving nine individual interviews conducted in the presence of their companion animals. The chapter begins with a discussion of love, empathy, and connection because it provides context to the confusion often felt by victims when violence extends beyond infrequent incidents to become an ongoing dynamic.


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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.University of CanterburyChristchurchNew Zealand
  2. 2.School of Public Health and Social WorkQueensland University of TechnologyKelvin GroveAustralia

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