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The Vanishing: Looking for Friendships in Traditional Neighbouring

  • Jennifer WilkinsonEmail author
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Part of the Palgrave Macmillan Studies in Family and Intimate Life book series (PSFL)

Abstract

This chapter argues that, because of the way the debates have been framed, it is hard to see the contribution friendship makes to community, neighbour relations and the public sphere, particularly in the case of women. Much of the research has involved working-class communities, with a predominant focus on men to the exclusion of connections between women. And yet, women have always joined with other women, as friends and neighbours, and also by organizing politically to change some aspect of society. By confining women to isolation and invisibility within the private domestic sphere, much of the debate around community and neighbourhood has failed to recognize the public significance of what women do within their neighbourhood networks. The chapter concludes with a call to rethink community.

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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.University of SydneySydneyAustralia

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