The Psychology of Love and Hate in Intimate Relationships

  • Katherine¬†Aumer

Table of contents

  1. Front Matter
    Pages i-x
  2. Love

    1. Front Matter
      Pages 11-11
    2. Elaine Hatfield, Cyrille Feybesse, Victoria Narine, Richard L. Rapson
      Pages 65-82
  3. Hate

    1. Front Matter
      Pages 83-83
    2. Christopher T. Burris, Rebecca Leitch
      Pages 85-103
    3. John K. Rempel, Siobhan Sutherland
      Pages 105-129
    4. Katherine Aumer, Anne Cathrine Krebs Bahn
      Pages 131-151
  4. Back Matter
    Pages 179-184

About this book


Social psychology has made great advancements in understanding how our romantic relationships function and to some extent, dissolve. However, the social and behavioral sciences in much of western scholarship often focus exclusively on the more positive aspects of intimate relationships--and less so on more controversial or unconventional aspects. The goal of this volume is to explore and illuminate some of these underrepresented aspects: aspects such as non-monogamy, female orgasm, sadism, and hate, that often function alongside love in intimate relationships. Ultimately, by looking at intimate relationships in this way, the volume contributes to and advocates for a more holistic and comprehensive view of intimate relationships.  

Throughout the volume, contributors from social, clinical, and evolutionary psychology cover love, lust, and hate from a variety of (sometimes opposing) perspectives. First, section 1 covers love and the changing landscape of romantic relationships. Its chapters review the current literature of the interaction between love, sex, and relationships, including the impact of technology on relationships.   Then, the second section explores hate and how hate can operate in romantic relationships--for example, the appearance of sadistic behavior and lack of satisfaction. The volume concludes, however, by looking at ways in which the appearance of hate in relationships can be dealt with and overcome successfully. Taken together, these two sections reflect the full variety of experiences within intimate relationships.  With the aim of exploring how love and hate can-and frequently do-work together, The Psychology of Love and Hate in Intimate Relationships is a fascinating psychological exploration of intimate relationships in modern time. It is an invaluable resource to academics and students specializing in psychology, gender, and sociology, clinicians and therapists, and all those interested in increasing our knowledge of intimate relationships.  


biological psychology and sexual desire evolutionary psychology gender gap in orgasm history and culture of love mating preference differences non traditional and traditional romantic relationship non-monogamous relationships psychology of romantic relationships psychology of sadism technology and love modern relationships modern romance

Editors and affiliations

  • Katherine¬†Aumer
    • 1
  1. 1.PsychologyHawaii Pacific UniversityHonoluluUSA

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