Writing is a dangerous activity, especially as it is seemingly harmless: we rarely know what we are getting into at the start. Continuing her work on the writings of J.M. Barrie, especially on the question of the “lost child” who never grows up, the author invites the reader to listen to Sándor Ferenczi’s “lost childhood” between the lines of his Clinical Diary. He begins the Diary on January 7, 1932 and the last entry is October 2 of the same year; Ferenczi died on May 22, 1933. The exceptional text of the diary is the fruit of his incisive clinical insights, his disappointment and anger with Freud and his ruthless self-analysis. The author pinpoints her reading of Ferenczi, the “wise baby—lost child”.

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A version of this paper was presented at the conference: “Sincerity and freedom in psychoanalysis: A studio conference inspired by Sándor Ferenczi’s Clinical Diary”, October 2013, Freud Museum, London.

1Kathleen Kelley-Lainé M.A., Psychoanalyst, Member of the Société Psychanalytique de Paris, IPA, Hungarian Psychoanalytical Society

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Kelley-Lainé, K. “FREEDOM TO GROW”. Am J Psychoanal 75, 57–64 (2015). https://doi.org/10.1057/ajp.2014.57

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