Pastoral Psychology

, Volume 52, Issue 6, pp 491–506 | Cite as

Clergy Affairs: Emotional Investment, Longevity of Relationship and Affair Partners

  • John ThoburnEmail author
  • D. Mitchell Whitman


While there has been a growing body of research on clergy infidelity behavior (Blackmon, 1984; Muck, 1988; Thoburn & Balswick, 1999), factors predicting infidelity (Blackmon, 1984; Steinke, 1989; Thoburn & Balswick, 1994) and attitudes related to clergy infidelity (Steinke, 1989; Thoburn & Balswick, 1999), little research has been done identifying the nature of clergy sexual misconduct relationships. Research with a multi-denominational group of male Protestant ministers examined a) whether clergy affairs are of short or long duration, b) the kinds of persons that clergy have affairs with i.e. counselees, church members, church staff, friends, strangers or prostitutes, c) whether there was an emotional quality to the affair, and d) the potential impact that marital dissatisfaction might have on the clergy affair.

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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Seattle Pacific UniversityUSA
  2. 2.Private practice at Discovery Counseling AssociatesUSA

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