Abstract
In order to make up for the insufficiency of previous studies which only provided a single coping tendency, as well as mainly used social exclusion and social inclusion two groups comparison. On the basis of broadening the sources of social exclusion, this study adopts the method of integrating three coping tendencies into the spatial cues experimental task to investigate the individual’s coping tendencies to face excluder and non-excluder with different close and distant relationships. The results showed: (1) Negative tendencies such as aggression and avoidance against the excluder may be triggered and difficult to escape regardless of the relationship between the excluder and the individuals. (2) Individuals may also adopt friendly tendencies towards the close relationship excluder, but not towards the stranger excluder. (3) It may lead to avoidance and aggression towards other non-excluders regardless of their relationship with the individual when being excluded by a close relationship person, as well as a friendlier behavioral tendency towards other close relationship non-excluder compared to strangers. (4) Negative tendencies such as aggression and avoidance will not be generalized to those who are close relationship non-excluder after being excluded by those who are more distant relationship, but show more friendly tendencies towards those who are close relationship non-excluder. The above results indicate that close and distant relationships can regulate the attitudes of individuals towards the excluder and non-excluder with different close and distant relationships after being excluded. This research has very good application value for more targeted and effective improvement of the physical and mental health of individuals after being excluded, and for intervening and blocking possible adverse behaviors.
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This work was supported by the Philosophy and social science planning project of Zhejiang Province (22NDQN265YB), Youth Fund Project for Humanities and Social Science Research of the Ministry of Education of China (22YJCZH253), Educational Science Planning project of Zhejiang Province (2021SCG340), Boda Teacher Scientific Research Promotion Special project of Zhejiang International Studies University (2021QNYB2).
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Zhang, P., Zhu, M., Hu, J. et al. Close and distant relationships exclusion: A study of individual coping tendencies towards excluder and non-excluder. Curr Psychol 42, 32284–32298 (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-022-04203-7
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