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For 19 mating-relevant traits, single males (N= 53) and single females (N= 86) rated (a) themselves relative to their same-sex peers, (b) their perceptions of the qualities desired by members of the opposite sex in an ideal partner, and (c) the qualities desired in their own ideal romantic partner. Several themes emerged from the data. First, males’ and females’ judgments of what members of the opposite-sex seek were generally accurate. Second, males and females both feel that they fall short of perceived opposite-sex expectations in a few areas. Third, both males and females desire an ideal partner better than themselves, but this is especially true for females. These findings are discussed in terms of evolutionary social psychological principles.
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Clark, S.C., Dover, A.M., Geher, G. et al. Perceptions of self and of ideal mates: Similarities and differences across the sexes. Curr Psychol 24, 180–202 (2005). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-005-1021-x
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