Vanilla and Kink: Power and Communication in Marriages with a BDSM-Identifying Partner

Abstract

This phenomenological study explored the marriages of 6 couples in which one partner identified with the BDSM culture and the other partner did not. Participants were individually interviewed regarding: the process of reconstructing their sexual relationship; the impact of the social discourse on the one partner’s practice in BDSM; and the nature of power within the context of the marriage and its influence on the couple’s negotiation process. Discussions are made to help therapists become aware of the power and voice within the marriage and facilitate a productive co-creation of the couple’s shared meaning of sex.

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Meyer, C.G., Chen, HM. Vanilla and Kink: Power and Communication in Marriages with a BDSM-Identifying Partner. Sexuality & Culture 23, 774–792 (2019). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12119-019-09590-x

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Keywords

  • BDSM
  • Sexual discrepancy
  • Sexual minority
  • Couple therapy