Consensual Sadomasochistic Sex (BDSM): The Roots, the Risks, and the Distinctions Between BDSM and Violence
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When practiced consensually, sadomasochistic sex is being increasingly accepted as an alternative sexuality. Here I suggest the possible evolutionary roots of the preferences, draw distinctions between violent, abusive and “healthy” practitioners’ partnership, provide clear behavioural markers of the respective situations, and underline some specific problems connected to this sexual preference. Some of the problems are well-known in the community of its practitioners, although they have not yet been described in medical nor scientific sources.
KeywordsConsensual sadomasochistic sex BDSM Violence Domestic violence Abuse Sexual disorders Psychiatry Sadomasochism Sadism Masochism Sex Dominance Submission Submissiveness Bondage Intimate partner violence Evolutionary biology Psychology Social hierarchy Hierarchy Minority Sexual practices Paraphilia ICD DSM-5
Help with English corrections provided by Martina Kolackova, Msc, from the Charles University in Prague; Martin Konvicka, PhD, from the University of South Bohemia; and Matthew Sweney, PhD, is highly appreciated. This study was supported by grant P407/12/P616 from the Czech Science Foundation (GACR).
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