Sex Roles

, Volume 58, Issue 11–12, pp 814–821 | Cite as

Gender Differences in the Verbal Expression of Love Schema

Original Article


This study attempts to supplement the investigations concerning the expression of narrative schema of love. The research question refers to the differences in the expression of narrative schema of love between men and women. A sample group of 100 Polish adults (50 men and 50 women) of average educational levels described their reaction to a photograph of a couple hugging each other. The narrative discourses about love, in terms of the syntactic, lexical, and formal elements, were compared. The results show that there were differences between the love schema produced by men and women—the latter using significantly more emotional words in their narrative than men. The narratives written by women were almost twice as long as those written by men.


Gender differences Narrative Expression Schema of love 


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  1. 1.Department of PsychologyMaria Curie-Skłodowska UniversityLublinPoland

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