Sex Roles

, Volume 53, Issue 5–6, pp 327–335 | Cite as

I Can't Wait to Get Married: Gender Differences in Drive to Marry

  • Judith E. Owen BlakemoreEmail author
  • Carol A. Lawton
  • Lesa Rae Vartanian


In this study we examined a new construct—the Drive to Marry (DTM). Young single men and women (149 men and 246 women) rated their desire to get married and completed measures of their valuing of marital, parental, and occupational roles; concern about others' views of them; and feminist attitudes. We found that women had a higher DTM than did men. In both genders, DTM was predicted by the value of parental role and by concern about others' views of them. In women, DTM was also predicted by traditional attitudes toward gender roles, and there was a trend for women who valued the occupational role to have a lower DTM. Conservative women, women who valued the parental role, and women with a higher DTM were also more likely to want to use the title “Mrs.” and to adopt their husband's surname.


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Authors and Affiliations

  • Judith E. Owen Blakemore
    • 1
    • 2
    Email author
  • Carol A. Lawton
    • 1
  • Lesa Rae Vartanian
    • 1
  1. 1.Indiana University Purdue University Fort WayneFort Wayne
  2. 2.Department of PsychologyIndiana-Purdue University Fort WayneFort Wayne

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