Journal of Child and Family Studies

, Volume 22, Issue 5, pp 737–745 | Cite as

Parental Responses to School-aged Children’s Sibling Conflict

  • Corinna Jenkins TuckerEmail author
  • Kerry Kazura
Original Paper


The goals of this study were: (1) to describe and compare parental responses to school-aged siblings’ conflicts; (2) to explore the sibling relationship structural correlates of the parental responses; and (3) to assess the links between type of parental response and sibling relationship quality and children’s psychosocial and physical well being. One parent from eighty-two families (mothers = 68; fathers = 13; 1 missing) of firstborn (Mage = 9.84 years old) and secondborn (Mage = 7.16 years old) children completed an anonymous survey. Parents employed a child-centered strategy most often and sanctioned sibling aggression least often in response to siblings’ conflicts. Closer age spacing among siblings was related to parents’ sanction of physical aggression. Parental response type was associated with sibling relationship quality and children’s psychosocial and physical well being. The differential associations between parental response type, sibling experiences and children’s mental and physical well being are discussed.


Conflict Parents School-aged Siblings Well being 


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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Department of Family Studies, Pettee HallUniversity of New HampshireDurhamUSA

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