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The purpose of this research was to examine the lived experience of a family unit that lost their spouse/mother/sister-in-law to cancer. A phenomenological case study was used to guide this research. Four participants, or one family unit consisting of one spouse, one daughter, one son, and one sister-in-law to the deceased, were recruited from Southern Ontario. Background questionnaires and one-on-one semi-structured interviews were conducted with each family member. The following themes emerged: (1) Negatives and (2) Silver Linings. This paper only addresses the theme “Silver Linings”; the first theme was addressed in Part I of this research. Within the theme “Silver Linings,” there were two sub-themes: (1) “…She was remarkable” and (2) Hope for the future. Each will be discussed in turn. Overall, the research study revealed some silver linings that may come from a diagnosis of cancer in a family unit. The family found it difficult to find positives in the loss of their loved one; however, they were able to acknowledge that they have a heightened appreciation for others. This research study provides insight regarding the lived experiences of families coping with the cancer journey of a loved one. It may allow readers to develop a greater sense of appreciation for their health and family members.
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The authors are extremely grateful to the Miller family for sharing their experiences in the hopes that other families can draw strength from this work. Their strength and dedication to each other, and families they want to help is inspiring.
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Molinaro, M.L., Bryden, P.J. & Fletcher, P.C. “I Just Miss Her. I Just Need Her Here.” Life After a Mother’s Cancer. J Adult Dev 24, 210–215 (2017). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10804-017-9259-8
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