Contemporary Family Therapy

, 33:273 | Cite as

Alaskan Gay Males’ Couple Experiences of Societal Non-Support: Coping Through Families of Choice and Therapeutic Means

  • Markie L. C. Blumer
  • Megan J. Murphy
Original Paper


Trends in the marriage and family therapy (MFT) field show that gay men access therapy at a rate two to four times greater than their heterosexual counterparts. Thus, MFTs must be prepared to meet the needs of such clientele. Little research has been conducted on male–male couple experiences and less has been conducted in Alaska. In this qualitative study involving eleven participants we explored societal experiences and coping strategies of Alaskan male–male couples. Themes demonstrated more non-supportive than supportive experiences, the use of families of choice as the primary means of coping, and mixed therapeutic experiences.


Alaska Alaskan gay male couples Gay affirmative therapy Gay affirmative couple and family therapy Gay affirmative marriage and family therapy Gay male Gay male couples Male couples Male–male couples 



This study was made possible by a grant through the Graduate Student Research Fund from the Department of Human Development and Family Studies at Iowa State University.


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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Marriage and Family Therapy ProgramUniversity of Nevada, Las VegasLas VegasUSA
  2. 2.Department of Human Development and Family StudiesIowa State UniversityAmesUSA

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