Gender differences in appraisals of first intercourse are among the largest in sexuality research, with women indicating less satisfying “sexual debuts” than men. Dispositional or “actor-level” explanations for this gender gap are pervasive, yet research has largely examined heterosexual debuts in which actor gender and partner gender are confounded. We assessed whether women’s less satisfying sexual debuts are better explained by actor gender or partner gender, comparing experiences of women who debuted with men (WDM) with those of men and women who debuted with women (MDW, WDW). Retrospective accounts of sexual debut were collected from 3033 adults. At first intercourse, we found that WDW had equal physical and emotional satisfaction to MDW, and more satisfaction than WDM, suggesting satisfaction gaps owing to partner gender, not actor gender. This pattern did not extend to a comparison event (first masturbation), where WDW and WDM had similar satisfaction, but less satisfaction than MDW, suggesting an actor gender gap. To identify sources of satisfaction gaps, we probed for corresponding differences in the circumstances of sexual debut. Sexual circumstances were more strongly implicated than nonsexual ones, with relative deprivation of glans stimulation explaining relative dissatisfaction at first intercourse, but not first masturbation, and orgasm explaining it at both. Findings challenge the view that the satisfaction gap at first intercourse reflects an inherent difference between genders. Indeed, they demonstrate similarities when partner gender does not differ and suggest strategies for ensuring equal sexual satisfaction—and equal sexual rights realization—at (hetero) sexual debut.
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In this article, “gender” is used to refer to gender/sex, denoting biological features distinguishing male and female, as well as social, cultural, and psychological traits linked to males and females through particular social contexts.
It should be acknowledged that penile-vaginal penetration can involve indirect glans stimulation for women, as well as some incidental direct stimulation (O’Connell et al., 2008)—even when not accompanied by direct manual stimulation of the glans clitoris.
Interpersonal conditions more often refer to relationship characteristics than partner characteristics, but ecological models of sexual satisfaction include one’s intimate relationship and the partner it is with within this same level of analysis (i.e., immediate interpersonal conditions within the mesosystem).
In addition to including sexual minorities, this definition includes sexual firsts that are limited to unidirectional genital stimulation but could nevertheless be argued to indicate the onset of sexual activity (e.g., first oral, manual, and object-assisted penetration with a partner). Indeed, unidirectional genital stimulation with a partner tends to precede bidirectional genital stimulation (Schwartz & Coffield, 2022), and might better reflect one’s sexual debut.
To our knowledge, no efforts have previously been made to quantify satisfaction at solitary sexual debut or to compare it across genders.
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This work was supported by a doctoral fellowship from the National Sciences and Engineering Research Council of Canada to DEP, a postdoctoral fellowship from the Canadian Institutes of Health Research to MNS, and an Insight Development Grant from the Social Sciences and Humanities Research Council of Canada to DPV .
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Peragine, D.E., Kim, J.J., Maxwell, J.A. et al. Not Who You Are, But Who You Are With: Re-examining Women’s Less Satisfying Sexual Debuts. Arch Sex Behav (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-023-02667-7