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Theories about embodied knowledge have emphasized the importance of familiarity with the socio-physical aspect of sexuality. The present study examines the kind of embodiment knowledge that contributes to the formation of wishes in intimate physical interaction in the couple relationship. Nine couples (n = 18) participated in 12 sessions of dance/movement therapy for couples (DMT-C). The sessions were documented on video and in personal diaries. Two themes emerged from movement experience: (a) a wish for security and (b) a wish for the partner to be magically compatible. In the discussion section, the contribution the results make to knowledge on physical intimacy will be addressed.
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Shuper-Engelhard, E. Ghosts in the Bedroom: Embodiment Wishes in Couple Sexuality: Qualitative Research and Practical Application. Am J Dance Ther 41, 302–317 (2019). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10465-019-09302-w
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