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This study examines the accounts of 80 divorced single mothers in order to consider various emotional processes involved in the mothers' postdivorce family reorganization. A qualitative analysis was conducted on written responses to an open-ended question. Concerns tended to center around how the divorce had affected the children as well as various difficulties associated with single parenting. Loss and guilt on the part of many mothers was tempered by positive attributions about how divorce actually gave way to greater personal happiness, better parent-child relationships, and more rewarding lives. Focusing on the benefits of divorce appeared to be an important means of coping with many of the problems inherent in single parenting. Implications for treatment are discussed from an ecological perspective which emphasizes the therapist's role in helping mothers to create contexts of support.
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This research was funded in part by grant number 9103 from the Women's Research Institute, Virginia Polytechnic Institute and State University.
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Arditti, J.A., Madden-Derdich, D. No regrets: Custodial mothers' accounts of the difficulties and benefits of divorce. Contemp Fam Ther 17, 229–248 (1995). https://doi.org/10.1007/BF02252361
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