Contemporary Family Therapy

, Volume 16, Issue 5, pp 393–410 | Cite as

Gender identity and family relationships: Perspectives from incestuous fathers

  • Gayle Wash
  • Carmen Knudson-Martin
Clinical Issues


The purpose of this study was to understand how incestuous fathers constructed their gender identities and family relationships and to determine how these perceptions were linked to incest. Analysis of intensive interviews with 20 incest offenders suggested that incest occurred in context of entitlement stemming from masculine gender constructions and family experiences which lead to conflicts regarding control and intimacy and a build up of failure. Case illustrations and implications for clinical practice are addressed.

Key Words

incest gender family systems entitlement family relationships 


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Authors and Affiliations

  • Gayle Wash
    • 1
  • Carmen Knudson-Martin
    • 2
  1. 1.Billings
  2. 2.Marriage and Family Therapy Program, Department of Health and Human DevelopmentMontana State UniversityBozeman

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