Clinical Social Work Journal

, Volume 12, Issue 4, pp 332–346 | Cite as

The tie that binds: A clinical perspective on divorced mothers and adolescent sons

  • Thomas K. Kenemore
  • Loretta D. Wineberg


Mothers and adolescent sons in families of divorce often develop an intense intimacy as an attempt to adapt to the loss of the husband and father and as a defense against mourning. This intimacy frequently produces symptoms in the adolescent and explosive relationship problems within the family. This article develops a theoretical explanation for the problems experienced by families who present problems of this nature. Clinical material is utilized to illustrate the development and functions of the intense relationship into which mother and son become locked. The article further elaborates, elements of a treatment strategy designed to help loosen the stabilized, defensive dyad, and to reengage the participants in the process of inourning.


Treatment Strategy Theoretical Explanation Clinical Perspective Clinical Material Relationship Problem 
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© Human Sciences Press 1984

Authors and Affiliations

  • Thomas K. Kenemore
    • 1
  • Loretta D. Wineberg
    • 1
  1. 1.Evanston

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