Adult Attachment and Long-term Mate Preferences in Iran

  • Reza AfhamiEmail author
  • Parisa Rafiee
Research Article


Attachment research has investigated the ways in which individual differences in attachment influence relationship outcomes. Research on individual differences in attachment and mating preferences is lacking in non-Western cultures. The current study examined the relationships between attachment dimensions and long-term mate preferences in Iran. A sample of adults (N = 255; 54% women) completed measures of attachment and long-term mate preferences. Anxious attachment was positively correlated with women’s preferences for Education/Intelligence and Religiosity/Chastity, and positively associated with men’s preferences for Kindness/Dependability, Status/Resources, and Religiosity/Chastity in choosing a long-term mate. Avoidant attachment style was not related to long-term mate preferences in either sexes. Findings are discussed in the light of evolutionary perspectives on attachment and human mate preferences. Limitations and future directions are discussed.


Attachment Mate preferences Romantic relationships Evolutionary psychology Iran 



We thank Mohammad Atari for his assistance and thoughtful feedback in this study. We are grateful to Farzan Karimi-Malekabadi for his helpful comments on an earlier version of this manuscript.


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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Department of Art Studies, Faculty of Art & ArchitectureTarbiat Modares UniversityTehranIran
  2. 2.Department of Psychology, Faculty of Art and HumanitiesTarbiat Modares UniversityTehranIran

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