Psychological Studies

, Volume 59, Issue 4, pp 413–418 | Cite as

Willingness to Forgive the Spouse: A Qualitative Study

Research in Progress

Abstract

The study examined the phenomenon of forgiving and willingness to forgive in the context of marital relationship in the Indian context. The participants, included six couples and two divorcees (women) residing in the National capital region of Delhi. Following interpretive phenomenological approach semi-structured interviews were used, which were later transcribed verbatim. The common themes included unwillingness to let go of the past; a feeling of anger or frustration; unfulfilled or unclear needs and expectations; closeness and intimacy of the relationship determining the ease with which one accepts and forgives. Invariably, forgiveness was perceived as a necessary precursor for a happy and satisfied relationship.

Keywords

Forgiveness Indian context Marital relationsips 

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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Department of PsychologyJamia Millia IslamiaNew DelhiIndia

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