Sex Roles

, Volume 70, Issue 7–8, pp 309–314 | Cite as

Parlance, Places, Process, and Paradox: Revisiting the Discussion of Gender Differences in Childhood Shyness

Feminist Forum Review Article


In our recent review article (Doey et al. 2013), we provided an overview and synthesis of the extant literature pertaining to gender differences in the prevalence and implications of childhood shyness. In response to this review, Sex Roles solicited three commentaries from noted experts in the field. This rebuttal is meant to briefly address some of the central themes raised in these commentaries. Our comments focus on the issues of parlance i.e., nomenclature, operationalization, and assessment, places (i.e., the importance of considering context), process (i.e., mechanisms that may underlie gender differences in shyness), and paradox (comparing gender differences in the prevalence of shyness versus internalizing problems).


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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Carleton UniversityOttawaCanada
  2. 2.University of OttawaOttawaCanada

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