Sex Roles

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Why Do Men Benefit More from Marriage Than Do Women? Thinking More Broadly About Interpersonal Processes That Occur Within and Outside of Marriage

  • Joan K. Monin
  • Margaret S. Clark
Feminist Forum


In this commentary we return to the original question of Wanic and Kulik’s paper, “Why do men benefit more from marriage than do women?” We suggest that trying to understand why women suffer more than men in marriage (from conflict or for any other reason) will not, by itself, answer the question. The answers are certainly multifaceted and complex, and there is little reason to pit one possible answer against another. We highlight that when examining gender differences in health in marriage it is important to (a) consider the helpful processes in combination with hurtful ones, b) take a broad view on this question including many types of social processes, and c) consider processes that occur outside of marriage as well as those that occur inside of marriage.


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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Chronic Disease Epidemiology, Social and Behavioral SciencesYale School of Public HealthNew HavenUSA
  2. 2.PsychologyYale UniversityNew HavenUSA

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