Sex Roles

, Volume 57, Issue 11–12, pp 909–918 | Cite as

Contesting and Maintaining Hegemonic Masculinities: Gay Asian American Men in Mate Selection

  • Voon Chin PhuaEmail author
Original Article


Masculinity is a prized commodity in mate selection among gay men. However, few studies systematically examine how gay Asian American men interpret their form of masculinity in the context of mate selection. Using data from in-depth interviews with 37 Asian Americans, I study how they interpret and negotiate their form of masculinity within a racialized gender hierarchy. The results show gay Asian American men maintain the hegemonic masculinity frame in the negotiation of their desirability and desires. Concurrently, they also attempt to reframe their masculinity to contest the subordination of their form of masculinity. Ironically, their alternate frame still maintains a gendered hierarchy whereby masculinity is still preferred over femininity, even as it contests the racialized hegemonic masculinity frame.


Gay Asian Americans Mate selection Masculinity Frame 



I would like to thank Robert Lee for his support during the collection of the data; Joseph Hopper, Obed Vazquez, and Jean Potuchek for their valuable comments; and Brian Meier for his help with the APA formatting. I would also like to thank the people who introduced me to some of the interviewees, and the interviewees for generously giving their time. The project will not be successful without the collaborative efforts. An earlier version of this paper was presented at the 2005 Eastern Sociological Society’s annual meeting.


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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Department of Sociology and AnthropologyGettysburg CollegeGettysburgUSA

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