Niceness and Dating Success: A Further Test of the Nice Guy Stereotype
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Proponents of the nice guy stereotype argue that women often say they wish to date kind, sensitive men, but, in reality, still choose to date macho men over nice guys, especially if the macho men are more physically attractive. We investigated the relationship between men’s agreeableness, physical attractiveness, and their dating success across different relationship contexts. One hundred and ninety-one male college students completed a computerized questionnaire to assess their levels of agreeableness and aspects of their dating history. Twenty college-aged women rated the men’s photographs for attractiveness. Results supported the nice guy stereotype. Lower levels of agreeableness predicted more less-committed, casual, sexual relationships.
KeywordsNice guy Physical attractiveness Dating success
This research was conducted as part of the doctoral dissertation of the first author. Random assignment of participants to conditions was performed with the assistance of the Research Randomizer program developed by Geoffrey C. Urbaniak and Scott Plous (http://www.randomizer.org). Sheree Posey, Kristine Van Deventer, and Brett Butler are appreciated for their assistance with data collection. Sandra Cowen is appreciated for her assistance with setting-up the web-based data collection.
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