Perceptions and Practices in Independent Management: Blurring the Boundaries Between “Mine,” “Yours” and “Ours”

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Research suggests that couples categorized as practicing independent management (IM) have a high level of independence and separateness regarding financial matters. However, this interview study showed that the boundaries between “yours” and “mine” regarding money, finances and consumption are blurred in couples categorized as IM. The blurring of boundaries reflected participants’ understandings of what it means to be in a committed couple relationship and the difficulties associated with having joint expenses and consumption while lacking a "common purse." The study indicated that couples might be less individualistic and private than the label IM suggests and that the practices of those categorized as using IM are varied and complex.

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We would like to thank the Swedish independent research foundation Riksbankens Jubileumsfond (RJ) for the research grant that made this research possible. We would also like to thank our participants for sharing their accounts with us, and the reviewers who contributed to this paper with insightful comments. This research was funded by the Swedish foundation Riksbankens Jubileumsfond (RJ), Grant Number: P2005-1017:1.

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Evertsson, L., Nyman, C. Perceptions and Practices in Independent Management: Blurring the Boundaries Between “Mine,” “Yours” and “Ours”. J Fam Econ Iss 35, 65–80 (2014) doi:10.1007/s10834-012-9348-6

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  • Money
  • Independent management
  • Financial practices
  • Couplehood
  • Fairness
  • Economic infrastructure