Journal of Child and Family Studies

, Volume 23, Issue 1, pp 39–51 | Cite as

Predictors of Parental Communication and Cooperation Among Divorcing Spouses

  • Ricky Finzi-DottanEmail author
  • Orna Cohen
Original Paper


The present study seeks to identify parental communication and cooperation as predictors of successful co-parenting in Israel during the divorce process. Self-report questionnaires assessing three types of predictors (parent personality characteristics, social and contextual factors and child characteristics) were completed by 123 divorcing mothers and 94 divorcing fathers. Two stepwise hierarchical regressions, one for parental communication and one for cooperation, showed that gender (female) and use of negotiation to resolve conflicts were the major predictors of both. These variables affected co-parenting both independently and in interaction with the personality characteristics of defense mechanism use and optimism. The differential contributions support the hypothesis of communication and cooperation as separate components of successful co-parenting, and the value of studying both. Clinically, these findings may be used to help improve co-parenting during divorce.


Divorce Co-parenting Defense mechanisms Optimism Child’s temperament 


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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.School of Social WorkBar Ilan UniversityRamat GanIsrael
  2. 2.School of Social WorkTel-Aviv UniversityTel-AvivIsrael

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