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Community Mental Health Journal

, Volume 55, Issue 2, pp 360–368 | Cite as

Forgiveness and Blame Among Suicide Survivors: A Qualitative Analysis on Reports of 4-Year Self-Help-Group Meetings

  • Ines TestoniEmail author
  • Elisa Francescon
  • Diego De Leo
  • Anna Santini
  • Adriano Zamperini
Original Paper

Abstract

This article presents the qualitative analysis of reports obtained through participant observations collected over a 4-year period in a series of suicide survivor self-help group meetings. It analysed how grievers’ healing was managed by their own support. The longitudinal study was focused on self/other blame and forgiveness. Results show how self-blame was continuously present along all the period and how it increased when new participants entered the group. This finding indicates that self-blame characterizes especially the beginning of the participation, and that any new entrance rekindles the problem. However, no participant had ever definitively demonstrated self-forgiveness, while a general forgiveness appeared when self-blame stopped. It is also suggested how to facilitate the elaboration of self-blame and forgiveness.

Keywords

Suicide survivors Self-help group Forgiveness Causal attribution Self/other-blame 

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Authors and Affiliations

  1. 1.Department of Philosophy, Sociology, Pedagogy and Applied Psychology (FISPPA), Fisppa DepartmentUniversity of PadovaPadovaItaly
  2. 2.Griffith UniversityBrisbaneAustralia
  3. 3.De Leo FundPadovaItaly

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