Child and Adolescent Social Work Journal

, Volume 36, Issue 6, pp 655–668 | Cite as

Developing Self Compassion as a Resource for Coping with Hardship: Exploring the Potential of Compassion Focused Therapy

  • Alvin LanderEmail author


This article explores the potential of compassion focused therapy for developing self compassion as a resource for young people coping with hardship. Theoretical and research perspectives that point to the therapeutic potential of compassion, in particular self compassion, are presented. Compassion focused therapy (CFT) is introduced as a well delineated and empirically supported approach that may facilitate the development of self compassion. An illustration is offered which demonstrates the contribution of compassion focused-therapy based interventions to the coping of a 15 year old boy experiencing post-divorce paternal disengagement. The complexity related to practitioner readiness to utilize CFT is discussed, as well as that associated with the utilization of compassion promoting interventions with children and adolescents.


Compassion Self compassion Compassion focused therapy Non residential parental disengagement 



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  1. 1.School of Social WorkSapir CollegeSderotIsrael

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