Archives of Sexual Behavior

, Volume 39, Issue 5, pp 1181–1190 | Cite as

The Relationship Between Dimensions of Love, Personality, and Relationship Length

  • Gorkan Ahmetoglu
  • Viren Swami
  • Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic
Original Paper


The present study examined the associations among participant demographics, personality factors, love dimensions, and relationship length. In total, 16,030 participants completed an internet survey assessing Big Five personality factors, Sternberg’s three love dimensions (intimacy, passion, and commitment), and the length of time that they had been involved in a relationship. Results of structural equation modeling (SEM) showed that participant age was negatively associated with passion and positively associated with intimacy and commitment. In addition, the Big Five factor of Agreeableness was positively associated with all three love dimensions, whereas Conscientiousness was positively associated with intimacy and commitment. Finally, passion was negatively associated with relationship length, whereas commitment was positively correlated with relationship length. SEM results further showed that there were minor differences in these associations for women and men. Given the large sample size, our results reflect stable associations between personality factors and love dimensions. The present results may have important implications for relationship and marital counseling. Limitations of this study and further implications are discussed.


Love Personality Big Five Relationship length Interpersonal relationships Internet survey 


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Authors and Affiliations

  • Gorkan Ahmetoglu
    • 1
  • Viren Swami
    • 2
  • Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic
    • 1
  1. 1.Department of Psychology, GoldsmithsUniversity of LondonLondonUK
  2. 2.Department of PsychologyUniversity of WestminsterLondonUK

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