Journal of Youth and Adolescence

, Volume 22, Issue 3, pp 219–251 | Cite as

The romantic experience of adolescents in satisfying love relationships

  • Roger J. R. Levesque


The love experiences of over 300 youths were analyzed to identify correlates and predictors of satisfying love relationships. The project made use of a new measure of love experiences and other measures specifically adapted for adolescent populations. Results revealed striking resemblances between adolescent and adult relationships in terms of the contributions of commitment, communication, companionship, and passion. Adolescent relationships differed from those of adults in that there was no connection between a lack of negative affects, conflict or trouble, and relationship satisfaction. Variables that previous research had overlooked—exhilaration, growth, toleration, appreciation, and specialness—played important roles. Similarities between the sexes abounded, although there were also consistent patterns of differences.


Health Psychology Consistent Pattern Relationship Satisfaction Adolescent Population Adolescent Relationship 
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Authors and Affiliations

  • Roger J. R. Levesque
    • 1
  1. 1.Center on Children, Families and the LawUniversity of Nebraska-LincolnUSA

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