Skip to main content

Advertisement

Log in

Sexual Communication in the Digital Age: Adolescent Sexual Communication with Parents and Friends About Sexting, Pornography, and Starting Relationships Online

  • Original Paper
  • Published:
Sexuality & Culture Aims and scope Submit manuscript

A Correction to this article was published on 07 June 2021

This article has been updated

Abstract

Online sexual behaviors like sexting, viewing pornography online, and using the internet to start relationships are increasingly common among adolescents, yet research has struggled to keep pace. This study fills a gap in the sexual communication literature by examining the extent to which a sample of high school adolescents are discussing digital sexual topics with their parents and best friends compared to more traditional sexual topics (pregnancy, STDs, condoms, and abstinence). Participants were 226 U.S. high school students (M age = 16.25; 58% girls; 46% White, 25% Latino, 24% Black) who reported their digital sexual behavior and sexual communication in the past year. Rates of sexting, viewing pornography, and starting relationships online were high (89% had engaged in at least one of these behaviors; 35% engaged in all three behaviors); yet communication about these topics was generally low: only 7% of youth had discussed all three digital topics with their parents and 19% had discussed all three with their best friends. This is in contrast to nearly 50% of youth who discussed traditional topics with their parents and best friends. Patterns of communication and digital sexual behavior were similar by gender, with the exception of pornography: boys were more likely to view pornography and discuss it with friends than girls. Implications for adolescent development in the digital age are discussed.

This is a preview of subscription content, log in via an institution to check access.

Access this article

Price excludes VAT (USA)
Tax calculation will be finalised during checkout.

Instant access to the full article PDF.

Similar content being viewed by others

Availability of Data and Materials

Data available from the first author with approval from the Institutional Review Board.

Change history

References

  • Akers, A. Y., Holland, C. L., & Bost, J. (2011). Interventions to improve parental communication about sex: A systematic review. Pediatrics, 127, 494–510.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Anzani, A., Di Sarno, M., & Prunas, A. (2018). Using smartphone apps to find sexual partners: A review of the literature. Sexologies, 27, e61–e65.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Bandura, A. (1986). Social foundations of thought and action: A social cognitive theory. Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice Hall.

    Google Scholar 

  • Baumgartner, S. E., Valkenburg, P. M., & Peter, J. (2011). The influence of descriptive and injunctive peer norms on adolescents’ risky sexual online behavior. Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, 14, 753–758.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Beckmeyer, J., Herbenick, D., Fu, T. C., Dodge, B., Reece, M., & Fortenberry, J. D. (2019). Sexting: Results from the 2015 national survey of sexual health and behavior. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 45, 767–780.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Behun, R. J., & Owens, E. W. (2020). Youth and internet pornography: The impact and influence on adolescent development. Routledge.

  • Binnie, J., & Reavey, P. (2019). Development and implications of pornography use: A narrative review. Sexual and Relationship Therapy, 35, 178–194.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Bleakley, A., Khurana, A., Hennessy, M., & Ellithorpe, M. (2018). How patterns of learning about sexual information among adolescents are related to sexual behaviors. Perspectives on Sexual & Reproductive Health, 50, 15–23.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Bőthe, B., Vaillancourt-Morel, M. P., Bergeron, S., & Demetrovics, Z. (2019). Problematic and non-problematic pornography use among LGBTQ adolescents: A systematic literature review. Current Addiction Reports, 6, 478–494.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Brechwald, W. A., & Prinstein, M. J. (2011). Beyond homophily: A decade of advances in understanding peer influence processes. Journal of Research on Adolescence, 21, 166–179.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Bryant, K., & Sheldon, P. (2017). Cyber dating in the age of mobile apps: Understanding motives, attitudes, and characteristics of users. American Communication Journal, 19, 1–15.

    Google Scholar 

  • Burén, J., & Lunde, C. (2018). Sexting among adolescents: A nuanced and gendered online challenge for young people. Computers in Human Behavior, 85, 210–217.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Carroll, J. S., Busby, D. M., Willoughby, B. J., & Brown, C. C. (2017). The porn gap: Differences in men’s and women’s pornography patterns in couple relationships. Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy, 16, 146–163.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Chalfen, R. (2009). “It’s only a picture”: Sexting, “smutty” snapshots and felony charges. Visual Studies, 24, 258–268.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Chen, A. S., Leung, M., Chen, C. H., & Yang, S. C. (2013). Exposure to internet pornography among Taiwanese adolescents. Social Behavior & Personality, 41, 157–164.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Coakley, T. M., Randolph, S., Shears, J., Beamon, E. R., Collins, P., & Sides, T. (2017). Parent–youth communication to reduce at-risk sexual behavior: A systematic literature review. Journal of Human Behavior in the Social Environment, 27, 609–624.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Dahl, R. E., Allen, N., Wilbrecht, L., & Suleiman, A. B. (2018). Importance of investing in adolescence from a developmental science perspective. Nature, 554, 441–450.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Diamond, L. M., & Savin-Williams, R. C. (2009). Adolescent sexuality. In R. M. Lerner & L. Steinberg (Eds.), Handbook of adolescent psychology. (pp. 479–523). Hoboken: Wiley.

    Google Scholar 

  • Dittus, P. J., Michael, S. L., Becasen, J. S., Gloppen, K. M., McCarthy, K., & Guilamo-Ramos, V. (2015). Parental monitoring and its associations with adolescent sexual risk behavior: A meta-analysis. Pediatrics, 136, e1587–e1599.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Dolezal, C., Marhefka, S. L., Santamaria, E. K., Leu, C. S., Brackis-Cott, E., & Mellins, C. (2011). A comparison of audio computer-assisted self-interviews to face-to-face interviews of sexual behavior among perinatally HIV-exposed youth. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 41, 401–410.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Flores, D., & Barroso, J. (2017). 21st century parent–child sex communication in the united states: A process review. Journal of Sex Research, 54, 532–548.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Fritz, N., & Paul, B. (2017). From orgasms to spanking: A content analysis of the agentic and objectifying sexual scripts in feminist, for women, and mainstream pornography. Sex Roles, 77, 639–652.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Gewirtz-Meydan, A., Mitchell, K. J., & Rothman, E. F. (2018). What do kids think about sexting? Computers in Human Behavior, 86, 256–265.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Gillmore, M. R., Chen, A. C. C., Haas, S. A., Kopak, A. M., & Robillard, A. G. (2011). Do family and parenting factors in adolescence influence condom use in early adulthood in a multiethnic sample of young adults? Journal of Youth and Adolescence, 40, 1503–1518.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Greenfield, P. M. (1984). Mind and media: The effects of television, video games, and computers. Harvard University Press.

  • Griffin, M., Canevello, A., & Mcanulty, R. D. (2018). Motives and concerns associated with geosocial networking app usage: An exploratory study among heterosexual college students in the United States. Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, 21, 268–275.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Guttmacher Institute. (2021). Sex and HIV education. Retrieved from https://www.guttmacher.org/state-policy/explore/sex-and-hiv-education.

  • Hinduja, S. & Patchin, J. W. (2010). Sexting: A brief guide for educators and parents. In C. R. Center (Ed.), (pp. 1–4).

  • Hornor, G. (2020). Child and adolescent pornography exposure. Journal of Pediatric Health Care, 34, 191–199.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Jaccard, J., Dittus, P. J., & Gordon, V. V. (1998). Parent-adolescent congruency in reports of adolescent sexual behavior and in communications about sexual behavior. Child Development, 69, 247–261.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Johns, M. M., Liddon, N., Jayne, P. E., Beltran, O., Steiner, R. J., & Morris, E. (2018). Systematic mapping of relationship-level protective factors and sexual health outcomes among sexual minority youth: The role of peers, parents, partners, and providers. LGBT Health, 5, 6–32.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Kamke, K., Widman, L., & Haskett, M. E. (2020). Safer sex communication and sexual health behaviors among a representative statewide sample of homeless adolescents. Journal of Sex Research, 57, 137–144.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Klaassen, M. J. E., & Peter, J. (2015). Gender (in)equality in internet pornography: A content analysis of popular pornographic internet videos. Journal of Sex Research, 52, 721–735.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Klettke, B., Hallford, D. J., Clancy, E., Mellor, D. J., & Toumbourou, J. W. (2019). Sexting and Psychological Distress: The role of unwanted and Coerced Sexts. Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, 22, 237–242.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Lippman, J. R., & Campbell, S. W. (2014). Damned if you do, damned if you don’t...If you’re a girl: Relational and normative contexts of adolescent sexting in the united states. Journal of Children & Media, 8, 371–386.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Lykens, J., Pilloton, M., Silva, C., Schlamm, E., Wilburn, K., & Pence, E. (2019). Google for sexual relationships: Mixed-methods study on digital flirting and online dating among adolescent youth and young adults. JMIR Public Health and Surveillance, 2, e10695.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Macapagal, K., Kraus, A., Moskowitz, D. A., & Birnholtz, J. (2018). Geosocial networking application use, characteristics of app-met sexual partners, and sexual behavior among sexual and gender minority adolescents assigned male at birth. Journal of Adolescent Health, 62, 708–715.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Macapagal, K., Moran, K., Newcomb, M. E., Moskowitz, D. A., Owens, C. & Mustanski, B. (2021). Patterns of online and offline partnering, partnership characteristics, and condomless sex among adolescent sexual minority males in the USA. AIDS and Behavior. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10461-020-03133-4.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Madigan, S., Ly, A., Rash, C., Van Ouytsel, J. & Temple, J. R. (2018). Prevalence of multiple forms of sexting behavior among youth: A systematic review and meta-analysis. JAMA Pediatrics, 172, 327–335.

  • Maheux, A. J., Evans, R., Widman, L., Nesi, J., Prinstein, M. J., & Choukas-Bradley, S. (2020). Popular peer norms and adolescent sexting behavior. Journal of Adolescence, 78, 62–66.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Mendoza, K. (2009). Surveying parental mediation: Connections, challenges and questions for media literacy. Journal of Media Literacy Education, 1, 28–41.

    Google Scholar 

  • Mitchell, K. J., Finkelhor, D., Jones, L. M., & Wolak, J. (2012). Prevalence and characteristics of youth sexting: A national study. Pediatrics, 129, 13–20.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Nesi, J., Choukas-Bradley, S., & Prinstein, M. J. (2018). Transformation of adolescent peer relations in the social media context: Part 1—a theoretical framework and application to dyadic peer relationships. Clinical child and family psychology review, 21, 267–294.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Owens, E. W., Behun, R. J., Manning, J. C., & Reid, R. (2012). The impact of internet pornography on adolescents: A review of the research. Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity, 19, 99–122.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Pariera, K. L. (2016). Barriers and prompts to parent-child sexual communication. Journal of Family Communication, 16, 277–283.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Peter, J., & Valkenburg, P. M. (2016). Adolescents and pornography: A review of 20 years of research. Journal of Sex Research, 53, 509–531.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Rasmussen, E. E., Ortiz, R. R., & White, S. R. (2015). Emerging adults’ responses to active mediation of pornography during adolescence. Journal of Children & Media, 9, 160–176.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Rice, E., Rhoades, H., Winetrobe, H., Sanchez, M., Montoya, J., Plant, A., & Kordic, T. (2012). Sexually explicit cell phone messaging associated with sexual risk among adolescents. Pediatrics, 30, 667–673.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Rogers, A. A. (2017). Parent–adolescent sexual communication and adolescents’ sexual behaviors: A conceptual model and systematic review. Adolescent Research Review, 2, 293–313.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Rose, A. J., & Rudolph, K. D. (2006). A review of sex differences in peer relationship processes: Potential trade-offs for the emotional and behavioral development of girls and boys. Psychological Bulletin, 132, 98–131.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Rothman, E. F., Daley, N., & Alder, J. (2020). A pornography literacy program for adolescents. American Journal of Public Health, 110, 154–156.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Rothman, E. F., Kaczmarsky, C., Burke, N., Jansen, E., & Baughman, A. (2015). “Without porn … I wouldn’t know half the things I know now”: A qualitative study of pornography use among a sample of urban, low-income, black and Hispanic youth. Journal of Sex Research, 52, 736–746.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Rothman, E. F., Paruk, J., Espensen, A., Temple, J. R., & Adams, K. (2017). A qualitative study of what us parents say and do when their young children see pornography. Academic Pediatrics, 17, 844–849.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Schreurs, L., Sumter, S. R. & Vandenbosch, L. (2020). A prototype willingness approach to the relation between geo-social dating apps and willingness to sext with dating app matches. Archives of Sexual Behavior (in press).

  • Scull, T. M., Malik, C. V., & Kupersmidt, J. B. (2014). A media literacy education approach to teaching adolescents comprehensive sexual health education. The Journal of Media Literacy Education, 6, 1–14.

    Google Scholar 

  • Secor-Turner, M., Sieving, R. E., Eisenberg, M. E., & Skay, C. (2011). Associations between sexually experienced adolescents’ sources of information about sex and sexual risk outcomes. Sex Education, 11, 489–500.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Setty, E. (2020). Risk and harm in youth sexting: Young people’s perspectives. Routledge.

  • Smith, A. & Anderson, M. (2018). Social media use in 2018. Pew Research Center: Internet, Science & Tech. Retrieved from https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2018/03/01/social-media-use-in-2018/.

  • Smith, A. & Duggan, M. (2013). Online dating and relationships. Pew Research Center: Internet, Science & Tech. Retrieved from https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2013/10/21/online-dating-relationships/.

  • Smith, M. (2013). Youth viewing sexually explicit material online: Addressing the elephant on the screen. Sexuality Research & Social Policy, 10, 62–75.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Smith, P. K., Thompson, F., & Davidson, J. (2014). Cyber safety for adolescent girls: Bullying, harassment, sexting, pornography, and solicitation. Current Opinion in Obstetrics and Gynecology, 26, 360–365.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Springate, J., & Omar, H. A. (2013). The impact of the internet on the sexual health of adolescents: A brief review. International Journal of Child & Adolescent Health, 6, 469–471.

    Google Scholar 

  • Subrahmanyam, K. & Smahel, D. (2011). Digital youth: The role of media in development. Choice Reviews Online, 48.

  • Sun, C., Bridges, A., Johnson, J. A., & Ezzell, M. B. (2016). Pornography and the male sexual script: An analysis of consumption and sexual relations. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 45, 983–994.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Sutton, M. Y., Lasswell, S. M., Lanier, Y., & Miller, K. S. (2014). Impact of parent-child communication interventions on sex behaviors and cognitive outcomes for Black/African-American and Hispanic/Latino youth: A systematic review, 1988–2012. Journal of Adolescent Health, 54, 369–384.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Symons, K., Ponnet, K., Emmery, K., Walrave, M., & Heirman, W. (2017). Parental knowledge of adolescents’ online content and contact risks. Journal of Youth & Adolescence, 46, 401–416.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Tolman, D. L. (2013). It’s bad for us too: How the sexualization of girls impacts the sexuality of boys, men, and women. In E. L. Zurbriggen & T. Roberts (Eds.), The sexualization of girls and girlhood: Causes, consequences, and resistance. (pp. 84–106). Oxford University Press.

  • Tolman, D. L., Striepe, M. I., & Harmon, T. (2003). Gender matters: Constructing a model of adolescent sexual health. Journal of Sex Research, 40, 4–12.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Tomaszewska, P., & Schuster, I. (2020). Comparing sexuality-related cognitions, sexual behavior, and acceptance of sexual coercion in dating app users and non-users. Sexuality Research & Social Policy, 17, 188–198.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Tsai, J. Y., Sussman, S., Pickering, T. A., & Rohrbach, L. A. (2018). Is online partner-seeking associated with increased risk of condomless sex and sexually transmitted infections among individuals who engage in heterosexual sex? A systematic narrative review. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 48, 533–555.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Turner, C. F., Ku, L., Rogers, S. M., Lindberg, L. D., Pleck, J. H., & Sonenstein, F. L. (1998). Adolescent sexual behavior, drug use, and violence: Increased reporting with computer survey technology. Science, 280, 867–873.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Van De Bongardt, D., Reitz, E., Sandfort, T. G. M., & Deković, M. (2015). A meta-analysis of the relations between three types of peer norms and adolescent sexual behavior. Personality and Social Psychology Review, 19, 203–234.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Van Ouytsel, J., Lu, Y., Ponnet, K., Walrave, M., & Temple, J. R. (2019). Longitudinal associations between sexting, cyberbullying, and bullying among adolescents: Cross-lagged panel analysis. Journal of Adolescence, 73, 36–41.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Van Ouytsel, J., Van Gool, E., Walrave, M., Ponnet, K., & Peeters, E. (2017). Sexting: Adolescents’ perceptions of the applications used for, motives for, and consequences of sexting. Journal of Youth Studies, 20, 446–470.

    Google Scholar 

  • Vandenbosch, L., & Van Oosten, J. M. (2017). The relationship between online pornography and the sexual objectification of women: The attenuating role of porn literacy education. Journal of Communication, 67, 1015–1036.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Vanwesenbeeck, I., Ponnet, K., Walrave, M. & Ouystel, J. V. (2018). Parents’ role in adolescents’ sexting behaviour. In M. Walrave, J. Van Ouytsel, K. Ponnet & J. R. Temple (Eds.) Sexting. (pp. 63–80).

  • Walrave, M., Ponnet, K., Van Ouytsel, J., Van Gool, E., Heirman, W., & Verbeek, A. (2015). Whether or not to engage in sexting: Explaining adolescent sexting behaviour by applying the prototype willingness model. Telematics and Informatics, 32, 796–808.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Wartella, E., Rideout, V., Montague, H., Beaudoin-Ryan, L., & Lauricella, A. R. (2016). Teens, health and technology: A national survey. Media and Communication, 4, 13–23.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Weber, M., Quiring, O., & Daschmann, G. (2012). Peers, parents and pornography: Exploring adolescents’ exposure to sexually explicit material and its developmental correlates. Sexuality & Culture, 16, 408–427.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Widman, L., Choukas-Bradley, S., Helms, S. W., Golin, C. E., & Prinstein, M. P. (2014). Sexual communication between early adolescents and their dating partners, parents, and best friends. Journal of Sex Research, 51, 731–741.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Widman, L., Choukas-Bradley, S., Noar, S. M., Nesi, J., & Garrett, K. (2016). Parent-adolescent sexual communication and adolescent safer sex behavior: A meta-analysis. JAMA Pediatrics, 170, 52–61.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Widman, L., Evans, R., Javidi, H., & Choukas-Bradley, S. (2019). Assessment of parent-based interventions for adolescent sexual health: A systematic review and meta-analysis. JAMA Pediatrics, 173, 866–877.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Widman, L., Golin, C. E., Kamke, K., Burnette, J. L., & Prinstein, M. J. (2018). Sexual assertiveness skills and sexual decision-making in adolescent girls: Randomized controlled trial of an online program. American Journal of Public Health, 108, 96–102.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Widman, L., Kamke, K., Evans, R., Stewart, J. L., Choukas-Bradley, S., Golin, C. E. (2020). Feasibility, acceptability, and preliminary efficacy of an online sexual health program for adolescents. Journal of Sex Research, 57, 145–154.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Widman, L., Noar, S. M., Choukas-Bradley, S., & Francis, D. B. (2014). Adolescent sexual health communication and condom use: A meta-analysis. Health Psychology, 33, 1113–1124.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Wight, D., & Fullerton, D. (2013). A review of interventions with parents to promote the sexual health of their children. Journal of Adolescent Health, 52, 4–27.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Willis, M., Canan, S. N., Jozkowski, K. N., & Bridges, A. (2020). Sexual consent communication in best-selling pornography films: A content analysis. Journal of Sex Research, 57, 52–63.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Willoughby, B. J., Young-Petersen, B., & Leonhardt, N. D. (2018). Exploring trajectories of pornography use through adolescence and emerging adulthood. Journal of Sex Research, 55, 297–309.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Wolak, J., Mitchell, K., & Finkelhor, D. (2007). Unwanted and wanted exposure to online pornography in a national sample of youth internet users. Pediatrics, 119, 247–257.

    Article  Google Scholar 

  • Zurcher, J. D. (2017). Exploring descriptive norms of parent-child communication about pornography among parents of middle-schoolers in the U.S. Journal of Children & Media, 11, 381–398.

    Article  Google Scholar 

Download references

Funding

Jacqueline Nesi is supported in part by the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH; K23MH122669). Anne Maheux was supported by the National Science Foundation (NSF) Graduate Research Fellowship under Grant No. 1940700. Any opinions, findings, and conclusions or recommendations expressed in this material are solely the responsibility of the authors and do not necessarily represent the views of NIMH or NSF.

Author information

Authors and Affiliations

Authors

Contributions

All authors contributed to the study conception and design. Material preparation, data collection, and analysis were performed by Laura Widman and Sophia Choukas-Bradley. The first draft of the manuscript was written by Laura Widman and all authors commented on previous versions of the manuscript. All authors read and approved the final manuscript.

Corresponding author

Correspondence to Laura Widman.

Ethics declarations

Conflict of interest

No conflicts of interest to declare.

Ethics Approval

IRB approval was granted by the North Carolina State University IRB.

Consent to Participate

All participants and legal guardians signed informed consent to participate in this study.

Consent for Publication

The publisher has permission to publish this work.

Additional information

Publisher's Note

Springer Nature remains neutral with regard to jurisdictional claims in published maps and institutional affiliations.

The original version of this article was revised: The affiliation superscript number for author Sophia Choukas-Bradley.

Rights and permissions

Reprints and permissions

About this article

Check for updates. Verify currency and authenticity via CrossMark

Cite this article

Widman, L., Javidi, H., Maheux, A.J. et al. Sexual Communication in the Digital Age: Adolescent Sexual Communication with Parents and Friends About Sexting, Pornography, and Starting Relationships Online. Sexuality & Culture 25, 2092–2109 (2021). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12119-021-09866-1

Download citation

  • Accepted:

  • Published:

  • Issue Date:

  • DOI: https://doi.org/10.1007/s12119-021-09866-1

Keywords

Navigation