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Out of Many, One Love? A Comparative Study on the Nature of Sexual Communication in Polyamory and Monogamy in the Caribbean

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In the play called “Society”, all human beings are actors and use communication as their stage. The role of communication in the acts of sexual relationships cannot be understated. This research examines the similarities and differences between sexual self-disclosure within polyamorous and monogamous relationships in the Caribbean. In-depth interviews were conducted with polyamorous and monogamous participants. The key questions were: “what, when and how” sexual communication takes place. The results point to the fact that all intimate relationships have problems and solutions and that value judgments based on the type of intimate relationship are not very helpful. These findings are important for therapists, scholars and participating individuals in helping clients to implement solutions to sexual communication problems.

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Campbell, S.R.K. (2017). Out of Many, One Love? A Comparative Study on the Nature of Sexual Communication in Polyamory and Monogamy in the Caribbean. In: Carpenter, K. (eds) Interweaving Tapestries of Culture and Sexuality in the Caribbean. Palgrave Macmillan, Cham. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-319-58816-2_6

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