The Significance of Reciprocal and Unilateral Friendships for Peer Victimization in Adolescence
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- Scholte, R.H.J., Overbeek, G., ten Brink, G. et al. J Youth Adolescence (2009) 38: 89. doi:10.1007/s10964-008-9287-6
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The present study examined to what extent the number of friends and their social and personal characteristics were related to peer victimization in adolescence. Participants were 2,180 adolescents (1,143 girls), aged 11–18 (M = 14.2), who were classified as victims, bully-victims, or non-involved (i.e., adolescents who neither bullied others nor were victimized by others). Three types of friends were distinguished: reciprocal friends, desired friends (who were unilaterally nominated by a target adolescent) and choosing friends (who unilaterally nominated a target adolescent). Between-group comparisons of the three types of friends showed that victims had fewer reciprocal and choosing friends than non-involved adolescents. Compared to bully-victims and non-involved adolescents, victims had reciprocal friends who were socially less well adjusted. No differences existed with respect to the characteristics of the desired friends. In general, victims’ choosing friends scored less positive on the personal characteristics than bully-victims’ and non-involved adolescents’ choosing friends. Within-group comparisons revealed that victims’ reciprocal friends showed lower adjustment than victims’ desired friends, but higher adjustment than their choosing friends. For bully-victims and non-involved adolescents, such differences between their three types of friends were largely absent. Our findings seem to suggest that victims’ reciprocal friendships may not be totally default associations and that out of all possible friends, victims might tend to select those who score most positive on personal or social factors.
Bullying in school is a major problem that affects many children, with prevalence rates ranging from 5 to 26% in Western and Non-Western countries (Eslea et al. 2003; Smith et al. 1999). During the last decade, bullying is increasingly viewed as a social group phenomenon, and the role of friends has become an important focus of attention. Although the role of friends in relation to victimization has been addressed in a number of studies, our knowledge of the significance of the friendship context is still limited. One of the reasons is that previous research has primarily focused on reciprocal friendships. The general aim of the present study was to explore how friendships were related to victimization, acknowledging that in order to better understand the role of friends, not only reciprocal but also unilateral friendships should be examined.
Research shows that two aspects are important in order to understand the significance of friendships in relation to victimization. First, studies on the number of friends suggest that children who have at least one (Boulton et al. 1999; Hodges et al. 1999; Pellegrini et al. 1999) or more (Pellegrini and Long 2002; Schwartz et al. 2000) reciprocated best friends in their class are less likely to be victimized. Second, the characteristics of the friends may be important indicators of their potential to protect against victimization, with some friends being more able to protect than others. Children who have friends who lack physical strength, suffer from internalizing behaviors, or who are less accepted, are more likely to be victimized (e.g., Güroğlu et al. 2007; Hodges et al. 1997; Hodges and Perry 1999). In contrast, having a bully as a friend is related to lower risk for victimization (Pellegrini et al. 1999). However, although previous research has been informative about the association between friendship and victimization, it has focused exclusively on reciprocal friendships (i.e., two members of a dyad reciprocally choosing the other as a friend) but has neglected the role of the so-called unilateral friends.1 Two types of unilateral friends can be distinguished. Desired friends (cf. Aloise-Young et al. 1994) consist of those peers who are nominated as a friend by a target individual but who do not consider that target individual as their friend. Choosing friends, on the other hand, are those peers who choose the target individual as a friend but whom the target individual in return does not regard as his or her friends. Desired and choosing friends represent important aspects of the friendship context and may be crucial for understanding the significance of friendships with respect to victimization.
Information about victims’ desired friends is important because it can reveal whether victims actually contribute to their own victimization by the friends they desire and ultimately choose as friends. When victims select friends who are victimized themselves and who are socially less skilled, they may not experience the positive social interactions important to the growth of social knowledge and social skills. Consequently, they may become increasingly unlikely to respond adequately in specific social situations, amplifying the risk for being targeted by bullies. Recent studies seem to support this idea. For example, victims may to a certain extent contribute to the very environments that may cause them to be victimized, because they have friends who are similar to them in terms of risk factors such as particular social characteristics (e.g., victimization, social acceptance) and personal characteristics such as physical weakness, internalizing problems (Hodges et al. 1997). This similarity may stem from different processes, including friend selection. It is believed that the reason why victims may have friends who are like them, even at the risk of continued victimization, can be found in the human tendency to select friends who are similar to one self, as is suggested by the homophily or similarity hypothesis (Hogue and Steinberg 1995; Kandel 1978). The underlying assumption here is that similarity in social and personal characteristics is rewarding because it involves cooperation with others who have similar experiences, thoughts, feelings, and views. Thus, similarity is believed to validate one’s self-concept and self-worth, while dissimilarity could represent a threat. This is of special importance in adolescence when children are faced with the developmental task of constructing a stable self-concept (Harter 1990). Support for the similarity hypothesis comes from studies that show that reciprocal friends are similar to one another in behavior and attitudes (Hogue and Steinberg 1995; Haselager et al. 1998). Although these studies were exclusively based on reciprocal friendships, it can be assumed that this similarity mechanism guides a victim in the selection of all of his or her friends. Consequently, it can be expected that victims’ reciprocal friends and also their desired friends may resemble them on a range of social and personal characteristics, because both types of friends are selected by the victims. An alternative hypothesis would be that victims want to have friends who are normally adjusted. According to this “normalcy hypothesis” it could be expected that victims’ select friends who are dissimilar to them in that these friends will show a more positive profile on social and personal characteristics.
Choosing friends (i.e., peers who choose a victim as a friend but who are not chosen by that victim) may also be important for our understanding of the significance of the friendship context in relation to victimization. It is likely that peers who consider themselves friends of a victim, thus reciprocal and choosing friends alike, tend to spend time and interact with that victim. They can also be expected to somehow try to defend or help when the victim is harassed. Since classmates are highly aware who interacts and affiliates with whom (Cairns et al. 1988), everyone in class, including bullies, will notice who is around the victim and might be willing to protect him or her. The number and characteristics of these choosing friends may signal to a bully the impact of the reactions his or her bullying behavior may provoke in those who consider themselves friends of the victimized peer. Even if these friends are not highly socially accepted, a higher number of them may pose a threat to the social status of the bully because of their more general disapproval of the bully’s behavior. Some studies suggest that, in general, the characteristics of the choosing friends are not associated with an individual’s characteristics (Mrug et al. 2004). However, whether this also holds for victims’ choosing friends is currently unknown and we can only speculate whether the number of this type of friends and their characteristics are related to victimization.
The Present Study
The present study explored the associations between friendship and victimization. To assess these associations, we classified adolescents into victims, bully-victims, and non-involved. Although many studies have examined victims as a homogeneous group, recent studies have clarified that a distinction can be made between victims and bully-victims (Pellegrini 1998). Whereas victims seldom use aggression towards others, bully-victims include individuals who are victimized but also frequently aggress towards peers (Olweus 1993; Pellgrini et al. 1999; Perry et al. 1990). Because of their dual involvement, they may be most vulnerable and at highest risk for psychosocial problems because they display the behavioral patterns that are distinctive for bullies and for victims. Indeed, a small number of studies have shown that adolescent bully-victims display a unique combination of psychosocial risk factors consistent with their bullying and victimization experiences (Austin and Joseph 1996; Haynie et al. 2001; Marini et al. 2006). However, bully-victims do not necessarily demonstrate poorer adjustment than victims on social features that are related to victimization (Marini et al. 2006). It has been found that bully-victims find it less difficult to make friends and tend to have slightly more positive relationships with classmates (Nansel et al. 2001), although other studies suggest that bully-victims are more socially rejected (Perry et al. 1988) and less accepted (Austin and Joseph 1996). To what extent victims and bully-victims differ in their friendships is currently unknown.
We addressed two research questions. The first question was to what extent characteristics of adolescents’ reciprocal, desired, and choosing friends were related to victimization. We examined whether the social and personal characteristics of the three types of friends (i.e., reciprocal, desired, choosing) were different for victims’, bully-victims’, and non-involved adolescents’ friends. According to the similarity hypothesis, adolescents select peers as friends who are similar to them in terms of behavior, cognitions, and attitudes. Consequently, we expected to find that victims and bully-victims would nominate friends (i.e. reciprocal or desired friends) who, like themselves, scored relatively high on victimization and rejection, and relatively low on social acceptance, extraversion, emotional stability and self-esteem, and would differ from the reciprocal and desired friends of non-involved adolescents. Based on the normalcy hypothesis, however, we could expect that victims and bully-victims would select friends who would be normally adjusted, and thus would differ from them on various aspects of social and personal characteristics that have been related to victimization in previous research. Given that no studies or theoretical models existed with respect to the association between the characteristics of choosing friends and victimization, no specific hypotheses were raised about possible differences between victims’ and non-involved adolescents’ choosing friends.
The second research question we addressed was whether victims’ and bully-victims’ reciprocal friends were similar to their desired and choosing friends. This question was relevant because it could reveal whether victims and bully-victims had the kind of friends they actually desired. Comparing victims’ and bully-victims’ reciprocal friends with their choosing friends made it possible to explore whether victims and bully-victims are likely to have default friendships. Default friendship refers to the social phenomenon that because individuals hold a relatively marginal position in a group, such as being victimized, there is a smaller pool of possible peers to establish friendships with, and that pool is largely limited to peers who hold the same position in the group. This implies that if default friend selection would exist with respect to victimization, we would expect no differences between victims’ or bully-victims’ reciprocal and choosing friends. Finding differences, however, might provide some preliminary evidence for the idea that victims tend to select those friends who seem, for example, more normally adjusted. Comparing victims’ and bully-victims’ reciprocal and desired friends might provide additional information about their friendships being default or not. That is, if no differences would exist between these two types of friends, then this would indicate that their friendships are not likely to be default in any way. However, if we would find that the desired friends are better adjusted than the reciprocal friends, than this would suggest some form of default association, as it indicates that victims and bully-victims do seem to be limited in the pool of potential friends. That is, they may be limited to a range of friends who may be less desirable than the desired friends.
Participants were 1,143 girls and 1,037 boys, aged 11–18, with a mean age of 14.2 years (M = 1.1 year). The participants came from 129 secondary education school classes spread over 23 schools. As for educational levels, 33% was enrolled in average or higher-level educational programs and 67% followed lower or vocational types of secondary education, which is representative of the Dutch situation. The majority of the adolescents were of Dutch origin (87%), while 5% came from Turkey or Morocco, 1% from the Dutch Antilles, Suriname and Aruba, and 7% from other countries.
The adolescents were selected using a stratified sampling procedure. First, a total of 41 high schools were sent letters of introduction and were contacted by telephone shortly thereafter. Of these schools, 23 agreed to participate. Reasons why schools did not want to participate were that they were too busy or were already involved in other studies. If a certain school agreed to participate, the research team and school board discussed the number of classes eligible for the assessment. Passive parental consent was obtained from the parents, as adolescents took home letters informing their parents about the study and asking for permission. There were no parents who refused their child to participate.
Trained master students conducted the classroom assessments from January to March 2005. All classroom assessments were performed during regular school hours and lasted no more than 50 min, which was the regular time for one lesson. No explicit refusals from pupils to participate in the study were recorded. In most classes, teachers were present during the assessment in order to help explain the content of certain items. In our instructions to the adolescents, we emphasized the confidentiality of the data and stressed that they should not talk about their answers with their classmates.
It is bullying when an adolescent or a group of adolescents say mean things to another adolescent. It is also bullying when an adolescent is being hit, kicked, threatened, locked in or something, or when he or she is excluded and isolated. It is bullying when these things happen frequently and when it is difficult for the adolescent to defend him or herself. It is NOT bullying when two adolescents who are equally strong quarrel, fight with each other, or tease one another.
Self-Reported Victimization and Bullying
Self-reported victimization and bullying was assessed using the victim scale of Olweus’ Bully-Victim questionnaire (Olweus 1989). The victimization scale consisted of five items (e.g., “how often do classmates say mean things to you”) rated on a 5-point scale (1 = ‘never’, 2 = ‘once a month’, 3 = ‘2–3 times a month’, 4 = ‘once a week’, 5 = ‘several times a week’). Cronbach’s α reliability was .70. The bullying scale also consisted of five items (e.g., “how often have bullied someone”), with the same answering categories, and contained questions related to bullying. The reliability was .73.
Reciprocal, Desired, and Choosing Friends
Adolescents were asked to nominate a maximum of five classmates who were their friends. The program MAKE DYAD (Thissen and Bendemacher 2002) was used to identify all possible reciprocal and unilateral friendship dyads, and neutral dyads (i.e., both dyad members do not nominate one another) in each class. When two classmates mutually nominated one another as friend, they were considered reciprocal friends. If an adolescent nominated a classmate but was not nominated by this classmate, the classmate was considered a desired friend. When an adolescent was nominated by a classmate whom he or she did not nominate, this classmate was regarded a choosing friend.
Peer Nominated Social Acceptance, Social Rejection and Victimization
Social acceptance and rejection were based on the peer nomination items “Which classmates do you like most” and “Which classmates do you like least”. Peer nominated victimization was based on the question “Which classmates in your class are bullied”. On each of these items, the participants were asked to nominate up to five classmates; self-nominations were not allowed. For each participant, scores on each of these three items were determined by summing all received nominations from classmates on that item. These three raw scores were transformed into within-class probability scores (p-scores) assuming a generalized binomial distribution, thus correcting for unequal numbers of nominations made among children and differences in class size (Newcomb and Bukowski 1983). The p-scores were then z-standardized across all participants.
Number of Friends Outside the Class
Adolescents were asked to write down the number of friends they had outside the class.
Big Five Personality Dimensions
Adolescents’ self-reported personality dimensions were assessed using the Quick Big Five (Vermulst and Gerris 2005). This questionnaire consists of 30 items measured on a 7-point scale, representing the Big five dimensions, six items for each dimension. These dimensions were Extraversion (e.g., “talkative”, α = .81), Agreeableness (“friendly”, α = .77), Conscientiousness (e.g., “hard working”, α = 83), EmotionalStability (“nervous”, α = .83), and Openness to new experiences (e.g., “creative”, α = .66).
The Louvain Loneliness Scale for Children and Adolescents (LLCA, Goossens and Marcoen 1999) was used to measure self-reported loneliness in relationships with peers. The scale consisted of 10 items (e.g., “I feel isolated from others”), each with a possible response of 1 (‘never’), 2 (‘seldom’), 3 (‘sometimes’), or 4 (‘often’). Cronbach’s α was .90.
In order to assess self-esteem we employed the Rosenberg Self-esteem questionnaire (Rosenberg 1979). This scale consisted of 10 items (e.g., “Sometimes I think that I am good at nothing”) rated on a 5-point scale, ranging from 1 (‘totally disagree’) to 5 (‘totally agree’). The reliability of the scale was .85.
The characteristics of the three types of friends (i.e., reciprocal, desired, choosing), rather than the characteristics of the victims themselves, were analyzed to answer our research questions. When an adolescent had more than one friend of a certain type, the scores of all friends of that type were summed and averaged. Because this method may have been statistically conservative, we repeated the analyses on the dataset in which all friends were counted as a separate dyad, resulting in many more dyads per adolescent. For example, if an adolescent had four reciprocal friends, in the first method the scores of these friends were averaged and the adolescent obtained one score, while in the second method the adolescent obtained four scores. The two methods did not result in different findings.
A complication of analyzing friendship dyads in groups is that the data are often statistically non-independent because individuals can be targets (i.e., who nominate) as well as friends (i.e., who are nominated). As a consequence, the participants are probably included more than once in the analyses. To check whether the results were affected by statistical non-independence, we used a randomization test. Applying a bootstrapping approach, the participants were randomly linked to the dyads in a series of simulations, the (aggregated) dependent variables were recomputed and the F-statistic determined. The distribution of the F-statistic was estimated under the null hypothesis that there was no relationship between the fixed factor and the dependent variable. By this approach, the actual distribution of the variables and the multiple membership was automatically taken into account. The position of the original F-statistic in this distribution was interpreted as the probability used in the decision whether to accept or to reject the null hypothesis. The results of this analysis indicated that it was unlikely that our findings were affected by statistical non-independence.
Adolescents were classified as victims when they scored +1 SD above the mean on the victim scale and lower than +1 SD on the bully scale. Bully-victims were those adolescents who scored higher than +1 SD on both scales, while non-involved adolescents consisted of those adolescents who scored lower than +1 SD on both scales. As Solberg and Olweus (2003) show, using a cut-off point of 1 SD may be less appropriate to estimate prevalence rates but is very well suited to identify extreme groups of victims whose behavior profile can be studied. Our classification resulted in 251 (10%) victims, 76 (3%) bully-victims, and 1,853 (76%) non-involved adolescents. Adolescents who scored +1 SD on bullying and lower than +1 SD on victimization were dropped from further analyses since they represented the bullies (n = 263, 11% of the original sample), while our study focused on victims and used the non-involved adolescents as the control group. The prevalence rates of victims, bully-victims, and non-involved adolescents in our study are comparable to prevalence rates reported in other studies (e.g., Eslea et al. 2003; Nansel et al. 2001; Salmivalli and Nieminen 2002).
Preliminary analyses showed that girls were less often a bully-victim than boys (χ2 = 11.25, p < .01). Chi-square analyses revealed that victims were more likely than bully-victims and non-involved adolescents to have no reciprocal friends (χ2 = 11.12, p < .01) or no choosing friends (χ2 = 16.05, p < .001) in class. No significant differences existed between the three groups in having zero versus one or more desired friends in class (χ2 = 2.67, n.s.).
Social and personal characteristics of victims, bully-victims, and non-involved adolescents
Victims (N = 251)
Bully-victims (N = 76)
Non-involved (N = 1,853)
Numbers of friends
Social acceptance (z)
Social rejection (z)
No. of friends outside class
Openness to new experiences
Characteristics of Friends in Relation to Victimization
The first research question we addressed was to what extent friend characteristics were related to victimization. To answer this question, we compared victims’ and bully-victims’ reciprocal, desired, and choosing friends with the three types of non-involved adolescents’ friends. Analyses of variance (MANOVA) were used with victim status and gender as factors and the social and personal variables as dependent variables.
Social and personal characteristics of reciprocal friends of victims, bully-victims, and non-involved adolescents
Social acceptance (z)
Social rejection (z)
No. of friends outside class
Openness to new experiences
Social and personal characteristics of desired friends of victims, bully-victims, and non-involved adolescents
Social acceptance (z)
Social rejection (z)
No. of friends outside class
Openness to new experiences
Social and personal characteristics of choosing friends of victims, bully-victims, and non-involved adolescents
Social acceptance (z)
Social rejection (z)
Being victimized (z)
No. of friends outside class
Openness to new experiences
Within-Group Comparison of Victims’, Bully-Victims’, and Non-Involved Adolescents’ Reciprocal, Desired, and Choosing Friends
The second research question we addressed was whether the friends with whom the victims, bully-victims, and non-involved adolescents had established a reciprocal relationship with differed from the friends they wanted (i.e., desired friends) or who wanted them (i.e., choosing friends). To examine this question, planned within-group comparisons were conducted. That is, we compared the social and personal factors of victims’ reciprocal friends with those of victims’ desired and choosing friends. The same within-group comparisons were conducted within the bully-victims, and non-involved adolescents groups. The latter was done in order to establish whether differences between types of friends were restricted to victims and bully-victims or were more normative for all adolescents.
The analyses revealed important differences between victims’ reciprocal friends and desired friends. Concerning their social characteristics, victims’ reciprocal friends were less accepted (t (339) = 5.77, p < .001), more rejected (t (339) = 2.30, p < .05), and more victimized (t (339) = 3.30, p < .001) than victims’ desired friends. At the same time they scored higher on conscientiousness (t (339) = 2.18, p < .05). Surprisingly, such differences were not found between the reciprocal and desired friends of the non-involved adolescents or the bully-victims. The only difference that existed was on social acceptance, on which the desired friends scored higher than the reciprocal friends, with t (111) = 2.95 (p < .01) for bully-victims, and t (2796) = 8.87 (p < .001) for non-involved adolescents.
Comparing victims’ reciprocal friends with their choosing friends revealed that the choosing friends scored less positively on a number of social and personal characteristics. They were less accepted (t (315) = 4.98, p < .001), less extraverted (t (315) = 2.02, p < .05), less emotional stable (t (298) = 2.28, p < .05), less open to new experiences (t (298) = 2.69, p < .01), and had a lower self-esteem (t (298) = 2.89, p < .01). A similar comparison between the reciprocal and choosing friends of the bully-victims revealed a quite different pattern. These two types of friends hardly differed from each other, except on self-esteem on which the reciprocal friends scored lower (t (97) = 2.24, p < .05). For the non-involved adolescents, it showed that the choosing friends scored lower than the reciprocal friends on social acceptance (t (2886) = 16.02, p < .001), while reciprocal and choosing friends did not differ on the other variables.
The present study examined the role of the friendship context in relation to victimization. An extension of previous research was that we explored the role of desired and choosing friends, in addition to reciprocal friends. The first research question we addressed was whether these three types of friends differed for victims, bully-victims, and non-involved adolescents in terms of psychosocial adjustment. The second question was whether the reciprocal friends of victims, and bully-victims, differed from their desired and choosing friends, and whether similar differences also existed for non-involved adolescents.
With respect to reciprocal friends, the findings revealed that victims were more likely than bully-victims and non-involved adolescents to have zero reciprocal best friends in class. This finding is in line with findings from other studies (Boulton et al. 1999; Hodges et al. 1997, 1999). In addition, victims turned out to have fewer reciprocal friends than non-involved adolescents, while bully-victims did not differ from these two groups. It seems likely that the number of reciprocal best friends, in addition to having versus not having a best friend, is relevant for victimization, as was suggested in other studies (Pellegrini and Long 2002). Our study further shows that not only the number of reciprocal friends but also the number of choosing friends may be relevant for victimization. An explanation here is that bullies will know quite well which adolescents have large networks of peers who consider themselves to be friends (cf. Cairns et al. 1988) and who might help when a victim is attacked. Even if these friends are not powerful individually, together they may exert enough social influence to make a bully refrain from attacking.
Previous studies have reported that victims are likely to have fewer friends outside of school than non-involved adolescents (Smith et al. 2004) or have more difficulties in maintaining friendships (Schäfer et al. 2004). Our study may add to that information as it shows that it is probably true for victims but not for bully-victims. Nevertheless, victims did not report to be friendless in our study. To the contrary, although the number of friends outside of class was lower, they still reported a substantial number. This may signal that victims do possess abilities to establish positive peer relations, even if only outside of class. It can also signal that the victimization experiences reported in this study might have been context dependent and were restricted to the school context. Since not much empirical information exists on the cross-context continuity of victimization, more research seems warranted to explore whether some adolescents who are victimized in class do in fact have positive peer relations outside of the school context.
Our study reveals not only that the number of friends is related to victimization, but also that the characteristics of the friends play an important role as well. We found that victims’ reciprocal friends were socially less accepted and more victimized, and were more introverted and more lonely than non-involved adolescents’ friends. These findings corroborate other studies that show a similarity between victims and their reciprocal friends in terms of victimization and personal resources (Hodges et al. 1997, 1999). Previous studies looked at victims but not at bully-victims. The differences in friendship contexts of victims and bully-victims found in our study suggest that it is important to differentiate between the two groups of victims. While Hodges et al. (1997, 1999) findings hold for victims, it is not clear whether they apply to bully-victims as well. The findings on the social factors of reciprocal friends in our study highlight that bully-victims tend to have friends who are generally similar to the friends of the majority of adolescents (i.e., non-involved), and that these friends are quite different from victims’ friends.
Previous studies on friendships and victimization have focused exclusively on reciprocal friendships. Our study extended this research because we also investigated the characteristics of desired and choosing friends. One relevant question is whether victims have unrealistic goals about the peers they want to be friends with. When victims tend to want friends who score above average on social or personal characteristics, it could have been expected that in our study the victims would have had desired friends that were different from the non-involved adolescents’ desired friends. Our results did not support this idea as they showed that victims’ desired friends in no way differed from the peers that bully-victims or the non-involved adolescents wanted to have as friends. What our findings support is the idea that what victims may seek in their friendship is normalcy, as they seem to desire socially normally adjusted friends. Thus, their goals in friendships tend to be socially realistic and similar to the goals all other adolescents had, regardless of their victimization status. Of course it could have been possible that the non-involved adolescents too had unrealistic goals and that there is a general tendency in adolescents to nominate those peers as friends who score more positively on social and personal characteristics than oneself. However, the general friendship literature suggests otherwise and has repeatedly found that similarity exists between friends on personal and social characteristics (Haselager et al. 1998; Hogue and Steinberg 1995). Moreover, additional analyses in which we compared the characteristics of the non-involved adolescents themselves (Table 1) with those of their desired friends (Table 3) revealed that they were very similar to the friends they unilaterally chose, except on social acceptance on which the desired friends scored higher.
Comparison of the victims’ reciprocal friends with their desired friends showed that the latter scored more positively on a number of salient social aspects: they were socially more accepted, less rejected, and less victimized. Given that victims’ reciprocal friends were below average on a number of personal and social characteristics, this finding indicates that victims seemed to want friends who were normally adjusted. For victims, the reciprocal friends and the desired friends seemed to be more promising in this respect than their classmates who unilaterally chose them (i.e., choosing friends). The choosing friends scored less positively both in social and personal domains. The discrepancies between the three types of victims’ friends revealed an interesting phenomenon. Of all the peers who were selected by the victims, the ones with the highest social adjustment did not reciprocate the friendship choice. In this respect, there seems to be some kind of social limitation, and a form of default association between victims and their friends, as victims are obviously limited in the pool of potential friends. However, the friendships are not entirely by default, as the victims do have a choice. Of all the peers who chose them, victims only reciprocated the choice of those with the highest social acceptance and most positive personality profile. This phenomenon was more indicative for victims than for bully-victims and non-involved adolescents because for them the reciprocal and choosing friends hardly differed.
Our findings can add to the knowledge of the friendship choices of victims and bully-victims in relation to victimization. Victims may have a pool of possible friends to choose from and from which they, consciously or unconsciously, select those peers who are normally adjusted. It might mean that a victim does not just establish a reciprocal friendship with any peer who chooses him or her as a friend, but instead makes choices depending on the characteristics of the potential friend. Our findings might imply that victims’ reciprocal friendships are not associations totally by default but that they may be based on some kind of selection process. We do not know yet why victims select some peers and deselect others as friends and more research is warranted to examine this issue.
From the present study, we can deduce that victims have a rather broad circle of peers they nominate as friends, as indicated by the number of desired and reciprocal friends. The fact that they establish reciprocal friendships with those who score lower on social characteristics may be a matter of non-selection or deselection carried out by the desired friends rather than a deliberate selection by the victims themselves. The desired friends may not be interested in becoming friends with the victims because of the dissimilarity on social and behavioral characteristics (cf. Kandel 1978). Considered this way, victims do not necessarily actively create the very environments that contribute to or reinforce their victimization (cf. Caspi et al. 1989). All in all, our findings might suggest that victims’ friendship choice is guided by a “desire-for-normalcy” and that victims can be actively engaged in establishing reciprocal relationships with friends who are normally adjusted. Although these peers may seem less promising in this respect than desired friends, they appear to be more promising than others (i.e., choosing friends).
It is important to note that these findings pertain to the victims, but not to the bully-victims. Our study showed significant differences between victims’ and bully-victims’ friends. These differences indicate that bully-victims are likely to have a more positive friendship context than victims. Various studies have identified bully-victims as a risk group that may be more problematic than any other group of adolescents, including bullies (Austin and Joseph 1996; Haynie et al. 2001; Pellegrini 1998; Perry et al. 1988). We found that, compared to victims, bully-victims’ reciprocal friends showed more positive features on peer-reported social factors while their choosing friends showed a more positive profile on the self-reported personal factors. What these findings may suggest is that bully-victims may be able to maintain peer relationships with adolescents who are normally adjusted, as was indicated by the fact that these friends did not differ from the friends of the non-victimized majority of adolescents. In this respect they differed from the victims, as was also reported in previous studies (Marini et al. 2006).
Our study had a number of limitations that should be acknowledged. First, in the peer nomination procedure we used a restricted range approach allowing the adolescents to only nominate a maximum of five peers as friends. There may have been adolescents who had more friends. However, it is not very likely that this procedure has affected the results substantially. The vast majority of adolescents nominated fewer than five friends (M = 3, SD = 1.9). Furthermore, in the analyses on the characteristics of the friends, the scores of the friends were summed and averaged, and the addition of friends might not have changed the averaged scores very much. Moreover, we have rerun the analyses using the individual scores of the friends instead of aggregated scores, and the results were identical. Second, the bully-victim group was relatively small (N = 76) which may explain the lack of significant differences in a number of comparisons between Tables 2 and 3. Finally, because our study was cross-sectional, all interpretations should be made with caution, and we cannot infer any direction of effects. It is possible that becoming victimized decreases the number of potential friends, and directs an adolescent into the direction of associating with friends who seem to have less social or personal resources. It may be as likely, however, that because an adolescent has fewer friends or has friends with fewer personal or social resources, he or she may become victimized more easily. Clearly longitudinal studies are needed to examine to what extent victimization affects friendship selection or vice versa.
To conclude, our study shows that, in order to understand the role of friendship in relation to victimization, it is important not only to understand reciprocal friends, but also to include choosing and desired friends as well. The study further makes clear that meaningful differences exist between victims and bully-victims in the reciprocal and choosing friends they have. It reveals that bully-victims are likely to have a more positive friendship context than victims. Nevertheless, victims do seem to have some kind of choice in the peers they establish a reciprocal friendship with. Out of all possible friends, they tend to select those who score highest on a number of social and personal characteristics.
Although some scholars (e.g., Hartup 1996) argue that friendships consist of two dyad members who mutually see each other as friends (i.e., reciprocal friends), other studies define friendship as a dyadic relationship in which one member perceives the other as friend irrespective of whether this friendship choice is reciprocated (Newcomb and Bagwell 1995). In the present study we adhere to this conceptualization and therefore speak of friendship also when a friendship nomination is not reciprocated and is thus unilateral.
We want to thank two anonymous reviewers for their comments on the first draft of our manuscript.
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